How often have you heard girls say “I’m not like other girls” to prove that they are different and better ? Quite many times.
So here comes the concept of internalised misogyny.
Misogyny is the hatred of, contempt for, or prejudice against women or girls. But sometimes this hatred for women comes from other women .Women who experience internalized misogyny may express it through minimizing the value of women, mistrusting women, and believing gender bias in favor of men. Sadly, many a times it is women who drag other women down personally or professionally. Internalised misogyny has a restricted view of femininity and womanhood where, in order to be independent, a woman must subvert all traditional notions of womanhood and challenge the existence of “the other girl.” A woman tries to compete other women and in the process drags them down. It murders the concept of sisterhood among all women to achieve common goals.
Often at school, we hear statements like “girls can’t do maths/science” This is misogyny. When it comes from other girls or a female teacher it is internalised misogyny. If women and girls don’t respect each other, how do you expect men to?
The very idea that women can unconditionally support each other’s success and exist as mutually empowered individuals upsets the patriarchal hegemony of society. This is reiterated by various Page 3 news which often pits women against one another by comparing which celebrity wore the dress better, which ex is better , which actress earns more and so on. Honestly it’s 21st century and we need to support other women rather than pit them against each other.
Internalised misogyny ruined feminism. the anti-feminism stance that many women take, stems from a place of deep-rooted aversion to all things feminine . Often women say “Oh I’m not one of those feminist girls” in order to prove their point that they are different. Seldom do they realise that Feminism is that movement which made voting rights legal for women, this very movement made it possible for them to work and earn and lead a respectable life.
Dear women, if women don’t support each other then who will?
SAY NO TO INTERNALISED MISOGYNY.